Manifesting Reality, Self-Control and not-I

I understand that one of the eventual realizations of Insight Meditation is that there is no I. One of the things I wonder about is my ability to manifest my reality. I certainly can make a choice between things. For instance, if there is a menu of foods, I will certainly only select the vegetarian offerings and I will not select something I don’t like. So is that a case of me being in control and manifesting my reality or is it a case of me being a pleasure-seeking pain-avoid robot with no ability to create my reality?